Lately more than ever, I have been wondering just what is womanhood? I know we all grow up with age, but making that significant step from girl to woman is one I don’t feel I’ve truly fulfilled just yet. There’s the part of me that still makes stupid mistakes and the part that still wants more.

What is it that makes us women?

Maybe when she gets the job of her dreams, and finds herself finally in the place she wants to be.

Maybe on her wedding day, when her father gives her away and she marries the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with. When she truly belongs to somebody else.

Or when she has her first born child, and becomes responsible for somebody else. The most important role she will take – being Mum.

-Could it be none of the above, and just a feeling. Maybe?

Like most things I think it comes at different times and different stages for everybody. For me sometimes the hardest part of growing up is realising it’s not all fun, and is by no means easy. In fact it's pretty hard.


  1. I thought with getting married I'd feel much more grown up then I do. Maybe it's because my husbands fun loving and acts like a 5 year old that it keeps me just feeling young. Then again i'm only 25 and I think to me that's still too young to be grown up!

  2. I don't have any of those things and at 25 I don't feel like I have much time left. I need to relax and stop reading silly Jenny Colgan books.
    I still live at home with my mum because I can't afford my own place haha xx

  3. I think being a woman is when you reach 30+ haha! I can't imagine anybody calling me a woman because I don't feel old enough to be classed as one but I do see older females as women on a whole. It is kinda weird now that I think about it! xxx

  4. I've been poorly ( just a bad cold) and it's left me like a 3 year old following my mum around the house asking her for hugs! I dont think i'm going to grow up any time soon! x

  5. I know exactly what you mean, I can't ever imagine feeling grown up! xxx

  6. Lovely post and nice idea. I think everyone become a woman at their own time and definition. I think being a woman is when you fill confident and independent and also able to accept the things that you do.

    Great read! ;)


  7. I don't feel like I'm a woman yet. Maybe because I feel like I'm living in the body of a child. (pouts)

  8. Loosing my Mum made me feel like an adult for the first time in my life. There's nothing like a reminder of our own mortality to give yourself a jolt. x

  9. This is a lovely and thought provoking post. I'm starting to feel older now, although I don't feel grown up yet,(if thats possible) :) Xx

  10. Well, on paper, I have all three of the things you mention (found career niche, husband and about to have third baby) and at 36 I really am a 'woman' rather than a 'girl' but let me assure you that on the inside I still feel a lot younger. I still get overwhelmed by responsibility sometimes but I also worry less about the stuff that bothered me in my twenties.

    Being happy/accepting of yourself is always touted as the holy grail, and I think it is something that comes with time, but like everything, you still have to keep working at it.

    I consider myself a 'work in progress' and hopefully when I'm an old lady I will be accomplished and complete :-)

  11. I truly don't believe it takes a husband and a child to make you into a woman, or the job of your dreams - I think it comes from getting to a place where you feel you can accept yourself; the good and the bad :-)

    Jem xXx

  12. I have to say I love being a 'grown up', although it definitely snuck up on me! I think I reaslised I was a grown up when I could do all the things I wanted to do as a kid, like staying up late watching tv and eating a whole bowl of cake batter, but I didn't do them because I know it's not a good idea!

    Well, most of the time... sometimes I stay up too late playing computer games still!

  13. I really still think of myself as about 22, even though I have 5 children, job, house, etc. I wonder when I will feel it?

  14. I am 22 and I had a long term boyfriend and a flat, now I find myself back at my mum's and single, but I feel more grown up than before because the experience changed me. Does that make sense?
    I don't know if I will ever feel like a fully blown adult!

  15. Sometimes I am told that I act a lot older than my years, whereas other times I think I feel a lot younger. It's a funny old thing really, growing up. I'm not sure that I would say that experiences such as getting married define our status as a grown up.


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